Can it be the middle of November already? It seems like yesterday when we were enjoying the hot Summer weather. The temperature outside has dropped into the 40’s and the trees are showing off their last bold colors before going to sleep for the Winter. It is now time to plan for Thanksgiving.
While many of us are doing major house cleaning, food planning and decorating in anticipation of big family gatherings, I’d like to share some Feng Shui tips to help fill your home with more gratitude and balanced energy and less frustration and drama.
Set your intention for everyone to have a wonderful time. True, you can’t control how anyone else acts or reacts while visiting, but you can set the tone for your own energy and attitude. Write down a blessing or affirmation on a piece of paper, such as: “May all who dine here be blessed with good health, happy and loving hearts and prosperity in all areas of their lives.” Place this blessing in the room where you will be dining, either under a beloved piece of china in the hutch or on the buffet, or under the tablecloth or runner. No one else needs to know it’s there. Remembering this blessing will lighten your energy and spread out to the others. You could also choose to place this blessing in your entryway and re-word it to ‘all who enter’.
See your home as a guest would. Is the path leading up to your front door well lit and free of all dried leaves and debris? Is your front door welcoming? I love keeping things simple. A brightly colored Welcome mat and colorful wreath on the door, decorated with Fire and Earth colors (reds, oranges, yellows) invites not only visitors, but vital Ch’i energy into your home. Another excellent choice is to flank pots of cheerful chrysanthemums on either side of the door. If your front door is already painted red, decorate with greenery and yellows, browns and dark tones to balance all of the Fire energy. Make sure your doorbell is working, the door handles are tight, and squeaky hinges are oiled. You want your front door to be strong, secure and ready to greet your guests!
When you enter your home, is it clear of any clutter, especially on the floor? If you can smell food cooking when you enter, you have included a wonderful sense of smell to the atmosphere, or you can light a mildly scented, seasonal candle near the entrance. This is where I love to use the small votive or tealite candles rather than larger scented pillars or jar candles, which can be overwhelming to guests with sensitive noses. I also burn one in each bathroom as well. Tealites add more ambiance than using plug-in fresheners. Festive music, playing quietly in the background, will add a pleasant sound without being a distraction to conversation.
Set the stage for dining. Although a round or oval dining room table is the ideal shape for equal conversation, most of us probably have either a square or rectangular table that gets extended for large gatherings. The preferred, command position is the chair that is farthest from the entrance of the room yet facing it, usually with a solid wall behind it. The weakest energy position is the chair with its back to the room’s entrance. We can talk about power positioning (the host usually sits in the command position) , but I’d rather talk about making everyone feel as comfortable as possible. A tablecloth that drapes over all corners of a square or rectangular table reduces the sharpness of the edges and softens the overall feel of the room. You can soften edges of a hutch or sideboard, that may be pointing towards someone, by draping greenery over the corners. Find this out, in advance, by sitting in each dining chair.
Mirrors multiply the abundance of food, which represents wealth and abundance in Feng Shui. Prop a large mirror up behind the buffet, place them under serving dishes or use as a runner down the center of the table.
If your dining room is painted red or burgundy (which is common here in the South), hold back from adding too much fire, which will increase the chance of heated arguments. Also be sparing with wood elements, since most rooms already have a lot of wood furniture and Wood feeds the Fire energy. Instead, put the focus on glassware, light colored plates and metallics.
Thanksgiving reminds us to express gratitude and appreciation for what we have and who we have in our lives. Decorate your home with gratitude, prepare your meals with love and welcome all who enter with appreciation, and this holiday will bring you joy and peace.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!